Why choose unnessary suffering? My mission for my book the 4 keys to health was to help avoid this. I witness unneccessary suffering day in,day out within my clinic and at presentations.I see evidence in peoples shopping baskets,in their T.V viewing, in the way they speak and the lack of exercise.So, I’m here to write about avoiding pain and suffering, which isn’t something that most people want to think about, is it? But what’s the opposite of pain? That’s right: pleasure. We all do everything we can to avoid suffering and seek pleasure, don’t we? But do we always make conscious decisions to seek pleasure and avoid pain? Let’s think about that. Is it possible that you make decisions that you perceive will give you pleasure when, in fact, it will ultimately give you pain? Yes, of course it is! We are all guilty of putting coins in the pain bank for long-term savings, rather than in the pleasure bank.
I have been puzzling over this one for many years while sitting in front of my patients. Recently, in preparation for The Z Factor – an annual health seminar run by Joseph McClendon III, where I give presentations – I asked my dear old friends, whom I’ve had the privilege of studying psychic/intuitive healing with for thirty years, about this. They responded with, “You have studied the suffering of thousands of humans over the years, and still you are confused. Study you… listen to yourself… ask yourself the question about all of your actions. Knowledge is inside us, not out there. Bring soul awareness, if you will. Bring mindfulness to your human thought processing when you make a decision about eating, working out, and so on. Get into a state of mind that is truthful about your actions.”
When we bring into focus a higher awareness, we are checking our beliefs about what we see and feel. Our vision is very inaccurate, seeing only a tiny part of what is really there. If we see the colour red, we get the memory of what red means to us, making a meaning solely for us. Therefore, red is a belief. Higher awareness says that we are accessing memory data associated with this visual input in order to get hold of the belief. We run it through a semantic memory system, finding the belief and making it into a thought. Changing beliefs kills old habits.
What we need to realise is that we are controlled by social acceptance to do what everybody else does, and that we are all intensely manipulated by advertising. We are driven to believe what we see on TV and in the press. Drugs companies, food companies and drinks companies are not driven to provide the healthiest products they can, but to maximise their profits and serve their shareholders. The only person who can look after you is you, and if all you do is follow everyone else, you are doing no better than a lemming who blindly follows the rest of the lemmings off a cliff. When we think of suffering, we need to realise that many causes of pain are self-inflicted and can be easily avoided. So, why do people choose the self-destruct button, over and over again? This is the fundamental question about pain, and one which needs to be answered. For many, suffering is a choice.
Traffic light approach to health, what do I mean ?Traffic Light Approach to Health
At my clinic, I always ask my patients to fill in a questionnaire about their
current health, and their answers are incredibly useful in letting me see
where they need to improve their mindset, their nutrition, their fitness and
their lifestyle. I call it the traffic light approach to health because we analyse
these areas by saying whether the patient is green (good), amber (room for
improvement) or red (poor). These are your fitness keys, and they will tell
you where you need to improve. With this in mind, I have developed four
questionnaires – one for each key – and have placed them in the appendix
of this book. If you want to get the most out of this book, I urge you to
complete the questionnaire at the start of each chapter, and again after
you’ve absorbed the knowledge and implemented some of my suggested
changes into your life. Soon, you should start to see your traffic light scores
changing from red or amber to green on all counts. When this happens, you
are likely to be at your optimal health for your age, which means you’ll be
giving yourself the best possible chance if a disease or injury should occur.
So, to those therapists and doctors who want to go beyond their specific
training and look at the synergy of everything they know in order to create
their own map, here is mine.
If you don’t want to commit to a new, healthy you, then now is probably a
good time to leave my blogs. If, however, you desire to work towards a healthy, fit,
pain-free body, here we go. It’s time to take your health into your own hands
and get rid of all the pain that has been holding you back
Nicky just spent four fantastic days at the 2013 Z factor in Spain with Joseph McClendon. This years event was a tremendous success with everybody who attended gaining transformational knowledge on how to improve their health.
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Nicky was on stage each day to talk about pain and its perception. This year she took a team of puppets to help explain individual case studies and to get the audience to identify with the character. A typical quirky idea from Nicky, but it really worked.
This is the fourth event where Nicky has shared the stage with Joseph McClendon. Joseph loves Nicky’s unique presentation style. Given the success of this years event in Spain, it looks like there will be many more as it spreads around the world.
This years Z Factor was held at the Kempinski Hotel Bahia, near Estapona, a beautiful location with grounds and beach which was perfect for outside yoga and walks. The event was a great opportunity to have fun as well.
If you want to learn more about how to really get a major improvement in your health, to feel more alive, have more vitality, sleep better and look younger, then upcoming Z Factor events are for you. Make sure you call us, so that we can keep you posted on future dates.
Each of us has the ability to alter our destiny by the choices we make. Perhaps not so obvious is that by focusing on what we think, this will affect what we do and ultimately what we get.
The brain has a clever information filtering system called the RAS. Literally billions of bits of data constantly bombard the brain from every direction. If we even attempted to pay attention to everything, it would result in total chaos as we would be overwhelmed by the quantity of information. This magical mechanism, the RAS, will look for information that can get through the filter, and that filter will be set by what you are focusing on. The brain is then effectively seeking out information that fits your thoughts and your actions will follow suit.
It is this scientifically proven mechanism that is thought to be behind the success of ‘The Secret’, but for many, the latter was treated as unbelievable as it was interpreted as ‘think about something once and it will miraculously appear’
I have studied under truly inspirational NLP gurus; Richard Bandler, Tony Robbins and Joseph McClendon and now have the honour of working closely with Joseph co- presenting at Z Factor health events around the world. These gurus have embraced the science and power of the brains filtering system and combined this with NLP to obtain proven results.
So I want to share with you how you can embrace these concepts to your benefit in the process of happiness.
The difference between someone who considers themselves a success or a failure can simply be the lack of focus placed on their thoughts. As an example, if you convince yourself you can’t do something, you will be right, you won’t. But if you convince yourself you can do something, then with determination you will succeed. To achieve happiness we have to work at it, and train our brain to seek it out.
On the whole the brain looks for the familiar, it likes matches, prefers what it knows , it’s easier. So to succeed you must stretch yourself and go outside your comfort zone.
Here’s your homework, you must visualize what you want in your life and then link emotion to it. In your minds’ eye clearly picture where you want to be, when, what you will look like, see, hear, feel, and who will be there with you when you get there. Give attention to every detail. Run a movie in your mind of this and look at yourself in that movie being happy.
If it helps, cut out pictures from a magazine and make a collage, put it on the wall and look at it every day. Next look at the steps you need to get there, plan it out methodically. Write out time lines for activities. Learn how to run movies in your mind of you already achieving this life, and get good at it.
Then take action to achieve these steps to being the person you strive to be in the life you desire. Happiness is not a passive process, it takes dedication and hardwork.